It is funny, when you drive as much as I do, it gives you time to think. I recently have been taking my iPod with me so I could listen to what I wanted to instead of the radio. Recently I’ve been playing the Simple Plan song, Welcome To My Life. I guess for me, I’ve made a connection with this song. Lately everyone that I know or people that say they know me have been getting on my nerves. I can list off who isn’t, and that would be Heather, Tabatha, Tiffani, Brian, and of course my lovely dear Tara. Everyone else, I just want to quote the lyrics of that song to them. Everyone judges and tells me what I am feeling and what my life is like and how they know what it is like to be me. Maybe you’ve experienced something similar, I can give you that; however you don’t know what it is like for ME to experience the same thing. I am tired of people telling and want people to start listening. I think everyone that’s been annoying the crap out of me has had their fare share of talking, it is time for them to shut up and listen. There’s my two cents on my, so called, “friends”.
Then let’s address this issue of love and dating. If I have one more idiot tell me that God cannot lead you to your future spouse this early in your life; I am going to have to smack someone. It’s so funny… when people have health, financial, family, life or whatever problems… they run to God. However, when I talk about going to God and giving God your dating life and letting God bring you to the one you’re meant for; people suddenly seem like God can’t or won’t do that. Now, we’re talking about a God that made a world out of nothing. He created, something no other human can do. To create is to make something out of nothing. I can’t take the air in front of me and form a flower or an object. Then these people say that this same God can’t/won’t lead them to the future mate? Please explain your logic in this, if you happen to hold this theory. People who believe that Tara and I are together, forever ask me this question:
“How do you know you’ve found the right one?”
Many people struggle to put that “feeling” into words. Well tonight I got asked that again and I can only say that maybe God gave me the words… and here is what I said…
1. You have “something” there… a new feeling that you
A. Never felt about anyone before and
B. Something that you cannot deny in your heart
2. You give these feelings to God, and wait for an answer…
That’s how I believe you “know”
I’ve always been told and taught in life, “God is not the author of confusion”. If you meet someone, God is going to give you a clear answer (if you give the situation to Him). He will never confuse you. If you have any doubts or questions; then you’ve either not listened to God or it isn’t the right one.
I wake up every day; and don’t have a doubt in my mind that I am one day closer to the day I marry my current girlfriend. Many people look at our situation and laugh. Many told us in the beginning we’d never survive. Well, we’re going to be together for six months an entire half of a year. I’ve watched over these last six months, almost every relationship my friends have had, come to an end. I guess it just goes to show again that God will always protect you; and keep you as long as you’re following His will.
I could preach an entire sermon on dating non-believers. So many of my friends have done it, and then they ask me, “Why do I feel like a bad person?” or “Why did they make me feel like I am at fault?” or “What did I do wrong?”…
I just don’t even feel like dealing with these people anymore. A non-believer and believer cannot date. I mean you have your exceptions where people have converted their non-believer boyfriend/girlfriend. Well, they are the same people who presented that fact up front and didn’t do much till they changed. However, my friends all dated non-believers and would tell me things like, “Well, they’re trying…” Well, trying isn’t going to get you into heaven. I guess I better end here, before I write a twenty page sermon on that…
While we’re on the topic of friends… Tonight as I was watching the TV Sitcom “Friends” it made me think of something someone said to me. They told me they were jealous of my friends that knew me longer than they did; and they didn’t feel comfortable in a group setting with them. Tonight it clicked with me. The characters on “Friends” all have known each other for different lengths of time; yet they’re so close. Makes me think about how when people say that a group where some people have a long “history” and some don’t, can’t function. What I wouldn’t give for a group of friends like the gang on friends. I guess I got a start… maybe in college I will finish up the group.
I am all for individual time with people, don’t get me wrong. I mean today my friend Tabatha and I hung out one on one. However, I also enjoy groups! In my opinion the bigger the group the better. There’s nothing cooler than like 7 or 8 people getting together and just hanging out. No schedule, no plans, nothing but a place and time. Some of the best times I’ve had is when a group of people I know go meet in a parking lot and then we just do whatever hits us until we all part ways and head back home. I guess I am more of a spontaneous person than most of my friends. Most of my friends have to be so structured and have everything scheduled. I guess I take life as it comes to me, lol.
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Later People,
J
